☘️Watch Your Response Mechanism

“What’re some ways you typically react to negative situations?” Ron Young

I was in a systemic constellation workshop today and my teacher asked this question.

We all have our default few sets of response mechanisms towards challenging situations, triggers, or difficulties.

Emotion-wise, some of us get angry, some cry, while some numb their feelings and rationalize.

Then the flavor or what’s underneath the emotions would vary too, some would feel a sense of uselessness, some feel unwanted, some lack worth, and so on.

“These response mechanisms are the same responses since 3-4 years old.” Ron Young

Every time we react in our default way, we’re reinforcing such a habit. When the habit gets stronger, our choices become fewer, and trauma gets heavier.

That’s why we do healing work and address what’s underneath, embracing it — then the feelings and reactions become quieter and quieter. Until at one point, they may not exist at all.

Yet, until then it’s very easy to fall back into the reactive pattern and strengthen such a habit.

Therefore, there’s a simple practice that’ll serve this set of reactions greatly:

To watch it with awareness.

Not to repress, to shove it away, nor to fight with it.

Just watch.

When we see it with awareness, when we’re present - we have a brief moment to see this reaction as it is. That’s where we could notice what’s inside/underneath such a reaction, and that’s where we get to embrace our reaction that it dissolves more and more every round we’re able to watch it.

In many ways, just having awareness itself is healing it too.