🚲Does Everything Traces Back to an Earlier Experience?

Earlier Experiences

In coaching, healing or therapeutic work (facilitation work), I argue that a lot of the work is done around what we’re more attached or less flexible on.

Many of those are formed due to an earlier emotional experience that we had.

What I mean is that if things are easily changed, we wouldn’t need to have all these process in the first place.

“I Know” vs “I Do”

“Being spoken to in a respectful way is important to me. But my coach says it is not personal. Ok, problem solved. Even if I was exhausted, having a horrible day, I was able to stay completely peaceful and at ease the next round I was treated disrespectfully.” - rarely said by most humans.

It’s a lot about “while we know certain things, we still can’t do them”.

For me, that’s where the value of facilitation work lies. Otherwise, we could just read book gain knowledge and have most of the things we want in life.

While some people are more rational and they’re able to govern their life with logic, we also want to ensure that’s differentiated from numbing the emotions and relying solely on logic to survive.

It is possible to govern life with logic yet also being in tune with the emotional (intuitive) side of ourselves. For most people, that often takes quite an amount of practice and healing.

“I Don’t Want to Visit the Past”

I observed a conversation where the party expressed unwillingness to revisit the past.

If I were running the session, my curiosity would be what’s the reason the person doesn’t want to visit the past? Often, it relates to how those previous experiences were painful and unpleasant - that they don’t see a point to visit and think about it anymore. There’s no way out. It’s too painful to feel it.

The work would have many layers: Building acceptance to present moment, allowing ourselves to be in touch with it - slowly and gently and so on - should the person choose to heal through a therapeutic process.

I personally find processes that goes directly to the root of the memory to shift those experiences to be very effective - yet it isn’t the only path.

There are also many more modalities that doesn’t require an active recall of memories to have the healing. Some meditation like Vipassana for examples, allows us to let go of the tightness and attachment we have through observing bodily sensation - and over time that shifts who we are.

So, there are indeed many possibilities.